Addiction, mental illness and disrespect in American culture

Yesterday,  Amy Winehouse died.  Her death was probably drug related since the singer suffered a long-term addiction to various substances – heroin, crack/cocaine, crystal meth and alcohol if I remember correctly.  But I’m too sad to Google it.  Not because I knew Amy and feel the grief of a lost loved one.  Rather, I’m sad about how our society views addiction and, similarly, mental illness.

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Dating While Bipolar: Is it deceptive not to disclose your disease?

So, I’ve been doing a fair amount of complaining about the men I’m dating, or trying to date, or seeking out for the express purpose of dating.  To be honest, I’m pretty excited about being healthy and rational and looking for a companion.  Yet a part of me is a little afraid about embarking on a relationship while carrying the baggage of bipolar.  It was OK when I thought I was just a little depressed and the behavior I now know as mania could be shrugged off as “free-spirited behavior.”  Now, with multiple rounds of medication and weeks in the mental hospital under my belt, I wonder how to work my mental health background into the dating picture.

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Dating While Bipolar: Mr. Right could be inside this blog post!

Internet dating is all about the over-promise.  If all the online matchmaking companies told the truth, they’d broadcast all of the social rejects, losers, undesirables and just-plain-weirdos that show up on their sites, and they’d say “Here’s your last for mating, you desperate cow.”  By showing photo montages of happy couples, and promising first encounters, the Eharmony’s and the Match.com’s of the world are telling you, “Dating is just as easy a pressing a button..see how these people did it?”

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Dating While Bipolar: ALWAYS judge a book by its cover

My keyboard actually looks like this, but the "find love" key is brokenFirst the lesson:  We all must trust our instincts and stop giving people the benefit of the doubt all the time, at least when it comes to internet dating.  With an internet dating profile, people choose the photos and the words they use, and there are no family members or people from high school to call them on any lies.  Anyway,  they way someone seems in a dating profile is either (1) who they really are, or (2) a carefully crafted image of who they wish they were.  Either way, if you see something that you don’t like or think is fishy, trust that the thing will show itself eventually when you meet your suitor in person.

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