Dating While Bipolar: Failures in Love

So, I learned something about Matt that made me re-evaluate our relationship, for lack of a better term.  It’s not anything bad or irreparable, but it caused me Failuredisappointment about the nature of our dating life.  Or maybe I was just disappointed in myself for having misjudged the situation.  Anyway, the particulars of what I learned are unimportant. To me what matters is that I felt exactly as I did at 12 years old when I had a crush on Josh Rosen and there was nothing I could do to make him “like like” me. Another thirty years of life have apparently given me lots of experience without the wisdom that usually accompanies age.

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The Single Supplement, or What I Learned on Spring Break

When I first decided to take a vacation, being single annoyed me.  My reasoning was, if I had a husband or boyfriend, I’d have a built-in travel companion to share the experience and the expenses.  If I was part of a couple, I rationalized, my $1500 vacation budget might stretch to $3000 with better destinations, fancier lodging and someone to share the wine at dinner (hey, everyone knows a bottle is a better value than buying by the glass).  I hemmed and hawed and bitched and moaned about having to fork up over a grand for some time away until I realized how fortunate I was to be able to pay for a solo excursion.  I said a prayer of thanks then proceeded to the travel agent to book a cruise.

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Dating While Bipolar: Is it deceptive not to disclose your disease?

So, I’ve been doing a fair amount of complaining about the men I’m dating, or trying to date, or seeking out for the express purpose of dating.  To be honest, I’m pretty excited about being healthy and rational and looking for a companion.  Yet a part of me is a little afraid about embarking on a relationship while carrying the baggage of bipolar.  It was OK when I thought I was just a little depressed and the behavior I now know as mania could be shrugged off as “free-spirited behavior.”  Now, with multiple rounds of medication and weeks in the mental hospital under my belt, I wonder how to work my mental health background into the dating picture.

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