My Polar Opposite

Dating While Bipolar: What I’ve Learned While Waiting for Love

mypolaropposite — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 02:35:38 +0000

So, it has been a long time since I’ve treated my readers to a glimpse inside my head. I’ve been busy, y’all, but my busy-ness has been put to good use.

First, I’m the new Relationships and Mental Illness blogger on HealthyPlace. Check it out every Thursday for brief pearls of wisdom from yours truly, plus a [...]

The Friend Boy Chronicles: Wallowing in freakish misery

mypolaropposite — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 03:38:33 +0000

I’m feeling some kind of way.

All up in my feelings.

One of the characters from Golden Girls called it “magenta”.

What is this feeling? The short answer is jealousy. The long answer is like a Facebook relationship status: its complicated.

Here’s what happened. One of my classmates went on a date with a guy I used to be interested [...]

Addiction, mental illness and disrespect in American culture

mypolaropposite — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 17:08:30 +0000

Yesterday, Amy Winehouse died. Her death was probably drug related since the singer suffered a long-term addiction to various substances – heroin, crack/cocaine, crystal meth and alcohol if I remember correctly. But I’m too sad to Google it. Not because I knew Amy and feel the grief of a lost loved one. Rather, I’m sad about [...]

Dating While Bipolar: Internet dating is for lunatics

mypolaropposite — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 02:31:58 +0000

That’s it, folks, I’m quitting the Internet. Not for social media or interracial porn, but for dating.

Yes, I’ve said before that dating websites have given me all manner of losers along the spectra of social competency and appropriateness. However, on of my subscriptions auto-renewed before I could cancel it, so I decided to use the extra [...]

Perqs of being a black woman: Why Psychology Today can suck it

mypolaropposite — Mon, 16 May 2011 19:51:58 +0000

A few weeks ago my roommate and I were watching one of those Kardashian shows on E! (don’t judge us!). We got to talking about how pretty women just get stuff because of how they look, and how it must be for Kim K. getting dick thrown at her all day, every day. You’ve seen her, you know [...]

The Single Supplement, or What I Learned on Spring Break

mypolaropposite — Sun, 24 Apr 2011 01:00:38 +0000

When I first decided to take a vacation, being single annoyed me. My reasoning was, if I had a husband or boyfriend, I’d have a built-in travel companion to share the experience and the expenses. If I was part of a couple, I rationalized, my $1500 vacation budget might stretch to $3000 with better destinations, fancier [...]

Dating While Bipolar: I AM READY

mypolaropposite — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 00:16:15 +0000

OK, so my dreams of love don't usually involve a Corona, but still...

The other night, I had a bizarre dream. I should elucidate: I had a series of dreams stringing together bizarre circumstances with seemingly real interactions and people that I know. My dreams are usually similar, featuring my coworkers, friends and family at places [...]

NBA All Star Weekend: More like Christmas than Thanksgiving

mypolaropposite — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 19:31:39 +0000

Black Twitter – and various other social media contingents – are up in arms about David Aldridge‘s opinion piece for CNN in which he calls NBA All-Star Weekend “Black Thanksgiving.” I’m never one to say people are too sensitive about race, but in this case I’m going to go ahead and say it. Stop being so [...]

Dating While Bipolar: Is it deceptive not to disclose your disease?

mypolaropposite — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 14:20:23 +0000

So, I’ve been doing a fair amount of complaining about the men I’m dating, or trying to date, or seeking out for the express purpose of dating. To be honest, I’m pretty excited about being healthy and rational and looking for a companion. Yet a part of me is a little afraid about embarking on a [...]

Dating While Bipolar: Mr. Right could be inside this blog post!

mypolaropposite — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 23:31:53 +0000

Control, alt, humiliate...

Internet dating is all about the over-promise. If all the online matchmaking companies told the truth, they’d broadcast all of the social rejects, losers, undesirables and just-plain-weirdos that show up on their sites, and they’d say “Here’s your last for mating, you desperate cow.” By showing photo montages of happy couples, and promising [...]