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Dating While Bipolar: What I’ve Learned While Waiting for Love

mypolaropposite — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 02:35:38 +0000

So, it has been a long time since I’ve treated my readers to a glimpse inside my head. I’ve been busy, y’all, but my busy-ness has been put to good use.

First, I’m the new Relationships and Mental Illness blogger on HealthyPlace. Check it out every Thursday for brief pearls of wisdom from yours truly, plus a [...]

The Friend Boy Chronicles: Wallowing in freakish misery

mypolaropposite — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 03:38:33 +0000

I’m feeling some kind of way.

All up in my feelings.

One of the characters from Golden Girls called it “magenta”.

What is this feeling? The short answer is jealousy. The long answer is like a Facebook relationship status: its complicated.

Here’s what happened. One of my classmates went on a date with a guy I used to be interested [...]

Addiction, mental illness and disrespect in American culture

mypolaropposite — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 17:08:30 +0000

Yesterday, Amy Winehouse died. Her death was probably drug related since the singer suffered a long-term addiction to various substances – heroin, crack/cocaine, crystal meth and alcohol if I remember correctly. But I’m too sad to Google it. Not because I knew Amy and feel the grief of a lost loved one. Rather, I’m sad about [...]

Dating While Bipolar: Internet dating is for lunatics

mypolaropposite — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 02:31:58 +0000

That’s it, folks, I’m quitting the Internet. Not for social media or interracial porn, but for dating.

Yes, I’ve said before that dating websites have given me all manner of losers along the spectra of social competency and appropriateness. However, on of my subscriptions auto-renewed before I could cancel it, so I decided to use the extra [...]

Perqs of being a black woman: Why Psychology Today can suck it

mypolaropposite — Mon, 16 May 2011 19:51:58 +0000

A few weeks ago my roommate and I were watching one of those Kardashian shows on E! (don’t judge us!). We got to talking about how pretty women just get stuff because of how they look, and how it must be for Kim K. getting dick thrown at her all day, every day. You’ve seen her, you know [...]

Dating While Bipolar: Is it deceptive not to disclose your disease?

mypolaropposite — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 14:20:23 +0000

So, I’ve been doing a fair amount of complaining about the men I’m dating, or trying to date, or seeking out for the express purpose of dating. To be honest, I’m pretty excited about being healthy and rational and looking for a companion. Yet a part of me is a little afraid about embarking on a [...]

Dating While Bipolar: Mr. Right could be inside this blog post!

mypolaropposite — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 23:31:53 +0000

Control, alt, humiliate...

Internet dating is all about the over-promise. If all the online matchmaking companies told the truth, they’d broadcast all of the social rejects, losers, undesirables and just-plain-weirdos that show up on their sites, and they’d say “Here’s your last for mating, you desperate cow.” By showing photo montages of happy couples, and promising [...]

Dating While Bipolar: ALWAYS judge a book by its cover

mypolaropposite — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 12:15:58 +0000

First the lesson: We all must trust our instincts and stop giving people the benefit of the doubt all the time, at least when it comes to internet dating. With an internet dating profile, people choose the photos and the words they use, and there are no family members or people from high school to call [...]

Dating While Bipolar: the wonderful world of idiocy and serial rejection

mypolaropposite — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 22:22:26 +0000

Happy 2011, kids! It has been a veeerrrry long time since I graced my darling followers with a blog post, so your reward will be a series. That’s right, I’m dating again, if by dating you mean engaging in various embarrassing activities in the hopes of meeting a man I might like to take on vacation. [...]

Armchair Therapist: Black women are voluntary victims

mypolaropposite — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 01:42:50 +0000

“So de white man throw down de load and tell de nigger man tuh pick it up. . . . He hand it to his womenfolks. De nigger woman is de mule uh de world so fur as Ah can see.” – Their Eyes Were Watching God, 1937

When Zora Neale Hurston wrote those words, I think [...]