Subscribe to My Polar Opposite

Honesty is NOT written all over my face

Sometimes I meet my blog fans and Twitter followers in person, and they remark that my social media personality is exactly the same as my real personality.  I’m a firm believer that “what you see is what you get” should apply to people as well as to computer programming and The Flip Wilson Show.  I’m [...]

Waiting in the foxhole of love

I’ve lost the use of my heart, but I’m still alive

Y’all know Sade ain’t never lied about a broken heart, and she really nailed it with “Soldier of Love”.  All the sisters and some brothers too, understand what she’s talking about.  Love rolled over your ass like like a wooden pin over Granny’s biscuit [...]

Sometimes a suicide needs a tribute

This may be one of the hardest things I’ve ever written in my life, aside from all those cover letters.  No, I’m not going to let the sarcasm block me from saying something that I think is very, very important. Today is my mother’s birthday and I’m in mourning.  Not for Mommy, though she [...]

Silence is deadly

As generally happens when a celebrity dies suddenly, the vultures (read: tabloid speculators) have begun circling over Brittany Murphy (again, the right way to spell her name, look it up).  The latest fodder for gossip is her use of prescription drugs, among them Klonopin, Atavan, Fluoxetine, Vicoprofen and Propranolol.  When you rattle off a bunch [...]

All I want for Christmas is self-esteem

But pointy shoulder blades, protruding elbow joints and thighs the same size as your calves don’t say, “I’m eating healthy now,” they say “I have an eating [...]

Bah, humbug!

I feel a little homeless during the holidays, fighting competing urges to be super-festive and to seclude myself at an ashram in India until the Rockefeller Center tree has been taken down. You’ll note that there’s no happy medium between these options. Such is my [...]

The little hater = MY polar opposite

I am my own little hater. I’m stealing the terminology from Jay Smooth, hip-hop DJ and video blogger who have a shout-out to his little hater, the little voice inside your head that makes you doubt yourself and gets in the way of you doing stuff. Let’s just say that I’m totally feeling [...]

Is Steve Jobs better than me?

. . .I think my dad went to the V.A. for a non-essential Viagra prescription and probably paid less than $20 for it. Insert appropriate outrage [...]

Beam me up, Professor

I see it as a cross between Girl, Interrupted, 28 Days and Madea Goes to Jail. In my head, it’s Black Girl, Interrupted, and don’t you DARE steal my [...]

Cancer? Heart disease? Suck it up, you slacker.

On CNN today, Jack Cafferty mentioned a study finding that more than 1 in 10 Americans are taking anti-depressants. This number has doubled in the last decade, as has the amount of money spent each year on direct-to-consumer advertising. On his blog, Cafferty invited people to respond with why they think anti-depressant use [...]