Black Love is outdated

There, I said it, but I probably don’t mean what you think I mean.

I never want to see another talk show cover the “single woman epidemic”… EVER!

During the “Black women ain’t got no man” public lamentation tour earlier this spring, I refrained from writing a blog on the so-called man shortage, or on my alleged inability [...]

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Armchair Therapist: I'm not a player I just #crush a lot

Excuse my French, but I’m a grown-ass woman so why do I have a “crush” on a man? And why the hell am I using that word?

I said that I wasn’t going to write another post about Friend Boy, but this one is a special request. The other day, one of my Twitter followers mentioned [...]

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Public Service Announcement: Never take love advice. Ever.

If you’re a regular reader of this blog, you know of the Adventures of Friend Boy.  If you’ve never read this blog before, let me sum it up for you so you don’t get confused.  There’s a guy that I like and, as though I’m in seventh grade instead of a 38-year-old woman who should know [...]

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Rockin' the Red Pump for AIDS Awareness. And fashion fierceness.

Ok, so it's not a pump, but these Birkenstocks are the only red shoes I have. You get the idea…

Today, March 10, is National Women and Girls’ HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NWGHAAD) and while it’s not my usual cause, I’m gonna talk about it. Here are the facts, directly from the CDC:

In 2007, more than [...]

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Taking the lid off Pandora's Box: #WetJamesFranco and celibacy

Blame it on #WetJamesFranco, an entity that I created solely to deal with my reaction to photographs from the actor James Franco‘s new Gucci campaign.  One of my friends posted a link to Facebook or Twitter or something like that and I haven’t been able to stop drooling since.  Or thinking about sex.

Photo courtesy of [...]

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Waiting in the foxhole of love

I’ve lost the use of my heart, but I’m still alive

Y’all know Sade ain’t never lied about a broken heart, and she really nailed it with “Soldier of Love”.  All the sisters and some brothers too, understand what she’s talking about.  Love rolled over your ass like like a wooden pin over Granny’s biscuit dough [...]

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Almost sorta counts: a cheater's story

This week, everyone I know is on a “cheetah” kick, talking about Tiger and Kobe and Shaq and all the other Black athletes who stepped out on their wives (Yeah, TW is a Black man, just ask anyone but him).  And once we start taking about some creeping men, the conversation turns to why Black men [...]

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Celibate much?

Since today is World AIDS Day, in honor of the only 100% effective way to prevent the spread of the disease, I’m coming out:  I’ve been celibate for over 1 year.  Someone should applaud or throw me a party or something.  To be clear, I’m not in the middle of a drought, looking for a willing [...]

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Find me a date. No, seriously.

“Sarcastic, sexy smartypants seeks similar for scintillating conversation over coffee or drinks. D/D free. Age, race unimportant, but opinions and height are. Democrats preferred, but willing to argue with M.O.R. Republicans. No prudes.” [...]

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Black Sexuality in the Academy

Apparently one of the stars of this gem is called “Ass Professor”. Now there’s a career that I’ve yet to consider, but if they have a good health insurance plan, I may have to reconsider….COBRA is a mutha! [...]

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