Perqs of being a black woman: Why Psychology Today can suck it

A few weeks ago my roommate and I were watching one of those Kardashian shows on E! (don’t judge us!).  We got to talking about how pretty women just get stuff because of how they look, and how it must be for Kim K. getting dick thrown at her all day, every day.  You’ve seen her, you […]

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Superwoman no more: its not easy to be me

Wish that I could cry Fall upon my knees Find a way to lie About a home I’ll never see It may sound absurd, but don’t be naive Even heroes have the right to bleed I may be disturbed, but won’t you concede Even heroes have the right to dream And it’s not easy to be […]

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Fantasia-Gate, Day 2: We need to do better

Yesterday, I wrote a blog post about news coverage of Fantasia Barrino’s overdose not because I like to gossip, but because the mainstream media puts out a lot of crap about people without dealing with the substantive issues related to a celebrity event. Stories about Lindsey Lohan focus on her hair extension what she’s wearing […]

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Armchair Therapist: Come out, come out whever you are!

If you’re gay, I’m gonna need you to go ahead and just be gay without all the equivocation and pretending and nonsense. I know, I know, it’s easy to say “come out already” when I’m hetero and I don’t really understand what it’s like to be ashamed of my feelings, or my life and everything […]

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Armchair Therapist: Relationship Self-Analysis Edition

This time, it’s personal (#NameThatMovie)! Today I realized that I still have some work to do, but I’m learning a lot about myself.  And, as a result, this is THE LAST POST I will write on the Friend Boy saga because I’m going to take my own advice.  One of my Twitter followers said that […]

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