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Perqs of being a black woman: Why Psychology Today can suck it

A few weeks ago my roommate and I were watching one of those Kardashian shows on E! (don’t judge us!).  We got to talking about how pretty women just get stuff because of how they look, and how it must be for Kim K. getting dick thrown at her all day, every day.  You’ve seen her, you know what I mean.  During this conversation with the roomie, I admitted that while I in no way approach the pulchritude of the Kardashian ass, I do get hit on at least once a day and it gets old, doesn’t she know what I’m talking about.  Apparently, she doesn’t.

Me: (incredulously) You mean, you don’t get a “hey beautiful” or a lip smack from the guys walking down Lenox Avenue?

Roomie:  (flatly) No

Well, I’ll be.  Because brothas are ALWAYS trynna holla, and that’s one of the coolest things about being a Black woman. Continue reading Perqs of being a black woman: Why Psychology Today can suck it

Superwoman no more: its not easy to be me

Wish that I could cry
Fall upon my knees
Find a way to lie
About a home I’ll never see

It may sound absurd, but don’t be naive
Even heroes have the right to bleed
I may be disturbed, but won’t you concede
Even heroes have the right to dream
And it’s not easy to be me

– Five for Fighting – “Superman”

After writing [...]

Fantasia-Gate, Day 2: We need to do better

Yesterday, I wrote a blog post about news coverage of Fantasia Barrino’s overdose not because I like to gossip, but because the mainstream media puts out a lot of crap about people without dealing with the substantive issues related to a celebrity event. Stories about Lindsey Lohan focus on her hair extension what she’s wearing when [...]

Armchair Therapist: Come out, come out whever you are!

If you’re gay, I’m gonna need you to go ahead and just be gay without all the equivocation and pretending and nonsense. I know, I know, it’s easy to say “come out already” when I’m hetero and I don’t really understand what it’s like to be ashamed of my feelings, or my life and everything in [...]

Armchair Therapist: Relationship Self-Analysis Edition / CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

This time, it’s personal (#NameThatMovie)!

Today I realized that I still have some work to do, but I’m learning a lot about myself.  And, as a result, this is THE LAST POST I will write on the Friend Boy saga because I’m going to take my own advice.  One of my Twitter [...]