Fantasia-Gate, Day 2: We need to do better

Yesterday, I wrote a blog post about news coverage of Fantasia Barrino’s overdose not because I like to gossip, but because the mainstream media puts out a lot of crap about people without dealing with the substantive issues related to a celebrity event. Stories about Lindsey Lohan focus on her hair extension what she’s wearing when she gets out of prison, rather than the help she (and perhaps other young people) need to get sober, get healthy and stay out of trouble.

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On Big-Girl bras and why I’ve never liked Kathie Lee Gifford (REVISED)

Imagine a beautiful, voluptuous woman going to meet a lunch date wearing nothing but sexy red lingerie under her trenchcoat.  If you’re the woman, you feel empowered, strong and just a little naughty.  If you’re the guy she’s going to meet, you’re probably going to thank some deity when she walks in the door and drops her jacket.  Apparently, this scenario is just too much for Kathie Lee Gifford to bear.

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Armchair Therapist: Come out, come out whever you are!

If you’re gay, I’m gonna need you to go ahead and just be gay without all the equivocation and pretending and nonsense. I know, I know, it’s easy to say “come out already” when I’m hetero and I don’t really understand what it’s like to be ashamed of my feelings, or my life and everything in the world tells me that I’m wrong for being the way that I am. Except for the fact that I know EXACTLY what you’re going through because the closet of #mentalillness is still quite large and quite full of folks sitting at work wondering if they can sneak out to that weekly therapy appointment without anyone finding out. But this isn’t really about my issues, I’m writing this week about how I want public figures to proclaim their homosexuality and stop faking the funk like folks can’t see the truth. In particular, I’m talking about one of my favorite performers of all time, Maxwell.

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