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No offense to Alicia, but I’m NOT Superwoman

Fantasia Barrino is the latest casualty in the myth of the Black Superwoman.

The news on the wire today is that Fantasia, on the heels of public innuendo about an affair with a married man, attempted suicide. According to Huffington Post, the American Idol winner took too many aspirin and sleep aids, and is resting comfortably [...]

On Big-Girl Bras and why I've never liked Kathie Lee Gifford

Uh, in what world is THIS not sexy? (image courtesy of LaneBryant.com)

Imagine a beautiful, voluptuous woman going to meet a lunch date wearing nothing but sexy red lingerie under her trenchcoat.  If you’re the woman, you feel empowered, strong and just a little naughty.  If you’re the guy she’s going to meet, you’re probably [...]

The fat TV ghetto

There’s some new TV show on ABC Family called “Huge” or “Big Fat Girl” or “Wide Load” or something like that. It looks to be about a weight loss camp in which the overweight star doesn’t want to lose weight. My size 16 self , and my thinking female brain are not happy about this.

Apparently if [...]

Music, identity and Erykah Badu: Haters, please!

#NowPlaying in my iTunes rotation:  the entire Erykah Badu musical oeuvre, Tyrone and all.  Why?  First of all, her new album dropped today and like the good fan that I am, I pre-ordered that shit last week and downloaded it as soon as it was available.  Second, she’s a little strange and unpredictable and undefinable, and [...]

What John Mayer taught me about race and sex

OK, so I used to be a huge John Mayer fan. I was all over the first album, the second one, even his short-lived show on MTV. For the record, I’m one of those Black girls that likes guitar players. And Guns N’ Roses. Don’t ask me why, but I grew up in the suburbs.  That [...]